Have you ever been
Enjoying forward momentum, then it came to a screeching halt?
Getting so close to your goal, then bam… you stopped?
Feeling like you had gotten over this negative thought pattern, but it came back again?
I see this often in clients when they arrive for their Reboot because they have not connected with their purpose, their passion, or identified their authentic self. They turn up feeling flat, confused and lacking energy; often worried they are depressed. Life feels harder, uphill and less in the flow.
When you are clear about what you stand for, what you love about you and what you want to achieve in life, everything flows better.
Contained within this brief E-Book are several practical exercises you can work through to help you get more clarity about what you love about you and what you stand for.
The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are. Carl Jung
One of the hardest things to do in a world filled with expectations and trends is to choose for you and to consistently be your authentic self.
Many of us put far too much weight on what other people think. Have you ever found yourself in a position where you received feedback about what you were doing or what you were wearing in a negative way; so, you changed it? Maybe you have been looked at strangely because of what you were eating or something you said. Suddenly you feel negatively critiqued and even criticised.
How do you react? Do you hold your head high, straighten your posture, say thank you, and carry on being you?
Or do you question yourself, get busy changing because of what someone else said, try harder to fit in, become confused about who you are, let your inner critic take over, self-sabotage?
We suggest you choose you!
Everyone needs to think about who they are and what they stand for. Whether you know it or not, you have a brand; how you portray yourself to the wider world. The question is, is your brand aligned with your authentic self, or are you trying to fit in by being or doing what other people think you should be or do.
The starting point to developing an authentic brand is to be clear about what you want and what you have to offer. The key word in that sentence is you. If you don’t know where you are going, your brand will be reactive and confusing rather than proactive and authentic.
A great start to defining your personal brand includes:
- Getting clear about your aspirations, and
- Identifying what is unique about you.
Once you have clarity, you will be able to communicate your brand effectively both online and offline. You will display consistency and you will certainly come across as being authentic.
In a busy world filled with distractions and an ever increasing number of opportunities, it is vital that you know who you are and take that brand out into the wider world.
Define your aspirations
It is a well-publicised fact that 70% of the worldwide population are unhappy or disengaged in their work. Frequently both. We often hear people saying they fell into their career. Are you one of those people? Maybe you knew someone who connected you with your first opportunity or maybe you followed in your family’s footsteps. You know that saying, wherever the wind goes, you blow. Perhaps that describes your career so far. You can be more purposeful in deciding the direction you want to go by first being clear about your aspirations.
Are you seeking status, responsibility, more knowledge, a higher salary, career advancement or do you prefer, stability and predictability? Do you want to leverage your expertise, be the expert and master in your industry and teach others; or are you the person who prefers to remain in one place long term, seeing longevity and loyalty as adding value?
Here is a simple exercise to help you if you are struggling to connect with your aspirations.
Imagine yourself at a dinner party and it is 10 years from now. The only person you know there is the hostess and she is introducing you. How do you want to be introduced?
For example, this is Brenda, she is known for her unique style of coaching and has developed an amazing reputation as the go to emotional strength coach. If you want to know about getting all you can out of your career and life, she is the person you should talk to.
Do you want to be known as a great artist, an expert on sustainability, an amazing photographer, an inspirational coach or speaker, a dynamic writer? What do you want to be known for?
What is unique about me?
When determining what is unique about you, you will think about your natural talents, your skills and your passions.
When articulating what our natural talents are, one starting point is to think about what came easily to you as a child? Or, how your friends would describe you?
What is so very naturally a part of you that you don’t have to work very hard at? Writing is often a natural talent for people, or public speaking, organising, problem solving, getting to the root of a problem, or analysing. What are you natural talents?
Skills are those things you put on your CV. What you have learned along the way. Here is another simple exercise:
If you were dropped in the middle of nowhere and had to earn money, what could you do? What are the skills you have learned? For example, accounting, project management, managing people, budgeting, computer programming, recruiting. What are your skills?
Passions are those things that excite you. Try this:
Imagine yourself walking into a bookstore. Which area do you gravitate towards? Let’s say you are drawn to the magazine section. If that is the case, what magazines are you picking up? Are you picking up entrepreneur and business magazines, pop culture, gardening, motor racing, aircraft industry, home renovations, or children’s health? Do you gravitate toward fiction or non-fiction, personal development, travel section? What is it for you?
This will give you a clear indication of what excites you, what you are passionate about.
You can now complete this sentence
I use my natural talents of (fill in the blank) and my (fill in the blank) skills to have an impact in the (fill in the blank) industry.
If you find it hard to fill in that sentence, spend more time with this. It is worth getting clear as this is foundational work toward clarifying your authentic brand.
Think about your interests. Where do you lose a lot of time? What books do you love to read? What are you always talking about?
Where are you noticing that there is a need in the marketplace relating to your interests?
By getting clear about your own aspirations, natural talents, skills and passions, you will be one step closer to moving ahead in life in a purposeful way.
Do what you love
Here’s a technique that I came across early in my business life. I was privileged to attend a presentation by Jack Canfield, author of the well-known publication ‘Chicken Soup for the Soul’. Jack spoke about narrowing down your purpose and suggested using this concept as a guide in your life. Being honest with yourself about your ideal world and genuine joys will help you boil down your true purpose.
The following four question process can help you get clear on your purpose so you can create a life that allows you to spend your time doing something you love.
Spend 15-20 minutes digging deep for your answers. Write them down.
What are the two qualities you most enjoy expressing in the world?
For example, enthusiasm, joy, creativity, love, optimism, authenticity, spontaneity, faith, confidence, compassion, courage.
How do you most enjoy expressing these qualities in your life?
For Example, teaching others, writing books, creating art, leading, managing, performing, using your computer skills, or creating order out of chaos.
Mine are inspiring and empowering people by helping them shine a light on their strengths, passions, purpose and then move forward confidently embracing all of these.
What are the ways you most enjoy showing up in the world and sharing those qualities?
Pick your top two.
Now write a description of what the world would look like if it were operating perfectly according to you.
In my perfect world, everyone is living the life they love purposefully and feeling immense joy, which ripples out and has a positive impact on the lives of their family and friends.
For someone else it might be that everyone is taking 100% responsibility for themselves, where everyone is behaving in a kind and compassionate way.
Or everyone is living an ecologically sustainable lifestyle.
Whatever it is for you, write it down. Take your time. Dig deep.
Combine all three of your answers in one statement
– The two qualities you most enjoy expressing
– The two ways you most enjoy expressing them
– Your vision of an ideal world
Use it as your inner guidance system
Looking at what you have written down will start to give you clarity about what your life purpose is, because for most people their life purpose has to do with expressing their natural qualities in a way they love, to help bring about their ideal world.
Getting clear about who you are, what you stand for and what you really want to do with your life will absolutely inspire you to live with more natural joy and happiness.
You are more likely to enjoy forward momentum, achieve your goals and enjoy positive thought patterns.
Living authentically and on purpose will have such a positive impact on your life. It will infiltrate all areas of your world including mental, spiritual and physical health.
A natural bonus is that it will also have a ripple effect on all of those who encounter you so you will be making a positive difference in the world around you.
What are you waiting for? You are worth it.