What does your mind tell you about your life?
I’ve come through some tough stuff in my life, but I did it, I pulled through. Not only that, I turned my entire life around.
I was at a place in my life where I felt desperately lonely and lost. I’d lost everything material that I’d been placing far too much value on for a long, long time. I’d pushed all my friends and family away, one by one. I had no job, I couldn’t get a job. I was ashamed of my life and didn’t feel worthy of anything. Pain lingered constantly. Suicidal thoughts filled my lonely head.
Today, 12 years later, I am a strong and empowered woman. I am surrounded by friends, family and love and I have exceptional work life balance. I manage my own business where I help a lot of people and I do it well. I’m confident, happy and filled with energy. Every single day I choose my focus. When I have down moments, as all humans do, I have tools at my fingertips, literally, that I use to change my mind and get back on track.
This blog mentions some of the work I did to turn my mind and life around. I did it with a strong focus, taking control of my thoughts and becoming more and more aware of what I was feeding my mind.
Is your ‘negative’ record stuck on repeat?
The mind is an interesting place isn’t it? Fear can take us over, uncertainty can launch us into thinking thoughts that can make us believe things will always be bad. We start to think we’ll never be able to turn it around, or that we don’t have the capability.
- I’ll always be stuck in this job
- I’ve got so much to do and so little time
- Work is not fun
- My boss will always try to control me
- They’ll never appreciate me here
- If only I could make more money
- Why does he always get the credit?
One of my favourite sayings is that ‘we bring about what we think about’. We will bring it about even quicker if we talk about it, then google it, then blog about it. The more energy we give a thing, the more likely it is to turn up.
It is the nature of those inner voices that everybody feels at times, that can take us to a place where we don’t believe in ourselves, or don’t think we’ll get that job, or relationship or money. We’ve all been there, maybe not right now, but I’m sure there are times when you have felt like this. So to take control of your focus, what do you do? You feed it. But what do you feed it.
Where do you source your mind food?
Today in 2018, if all you do is pick up your smart phone or iPad, you’ll have all kinds of messages that are going to get your full attention, or you could turn on the news or check out everyone else’s fabulous life on Facebook. Whatever it is that you do, information is constantly coming at us.
One of the inspiring teachers I listen to, Jim Rohn, talks about standing guard to the door of your mind. That is the place where things feed and grow and you start to accept them, they start to become beliefs. You start to make up meanings that take over your life.
A way too common example of this is the child who is told ‘you’ll never amount to anything’ 10 times before the age of 8. At which stage of that 1 to 10 times do you think that became a belief? Sadly, chances are, they went on to hear that message throughout their lives?
How much of this is in your control?
At least 50% of my clients have initially struggled to grasp the concept of my favourite saying, which is ‘you bring about what you think about’. I get comments like ‘I can’t get my head around that’, or ‘where can I find scientific proof about that’.
With 99% of those cases, my questioning to dig deeper will help them remember a time where they received, won or created something that they wanted really badly, all because they couldn’t stop thinking about it and getting excited about it.
And really, what have you go to lose by giving this a go? What is the worst thing that can happen?
When I first set up business in 2004, I had one of Henry Ford’s famous quotes posted up on my wall. ‘If you think you can, or you think you can’t, you are right’. I didn’t want to take a chance in thinking that I couldn’t achieve what I needed to because I was a single parent supporting a 9 year old, so I spent all the time I needed to focused on thinking that I could achieve.
Awareness is the first step toward transformation
This very well-known story explains it well and now that I have a wee Grandson, it means even more to me.
An old Cherokee is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said to the boy. “It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.”
He continued, “The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. The same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too.”
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, “Which wolf will win?”
The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”
There are numerous stories like this out there. Reminding us to be mindful of what we think. Reminding us to stand guard to the door of our minds.
I believe that awareness is the first step toward transformation. If, by simply having an awareness of what you feed your mind you start to notice your thoughts more, your life could very well change!
How I use EFT to help you ‘guard the door of your mind’
EFT takes the charge out of the negative thoughts so that you are empowered to focus on the positive thoughts and change your life, change your world. It helped change my mind and world so much that I trained in this modality 12 years ago.
It’s a self-help method that involves tapping your fingertips on key acupuncture points on the hands, face and body while focusing temporarily on an issue you wish to resolve. An issue like self-doubt, anxiety, overwhelm or disappointment.
I like to think of EFT as resetting our personal energy system in relation to a particular issue. It’s similar to how we would reboot a computer that has frozen or crashed.
I see profound results every single time I work with clients using EFT. With the charge taken out of negative thoughts, you may very well find yourself laughing at what used to bother you.
This opens up space in the mind for you to purposefully think positive thoughts and make positive choices.
I’ve always believed that if I can turn my thinking and my life around, anyone can! It’s been worth every ounce of focus, hard work and change.
Interestingly, once you become more aware, it’s common to then become protective of your new way of thinking and start to avoid negative people, negative news, and negative messages.
Imagine the impact this could have on your world, and more specifically, your world of work.
Remember to be mindful of what you are feeding your mind and stand guard to what goes in there.
Changing your mind will change your life!
Go well, Brenda
PS: Here is a testimonial I received this week from a client who has done only one hour of EFT with me to deal with a major anxiety issue:
Hi Brenda, Just a brief note to thank you for your help. EFT has been of considerable benefit and it’s a relief to feel like my old self again. I begin a short term contract with a company this week and there is a possibility of a second interview with another company. I watch the video every morning and start the day in a very confident way. My anxiety medication has also been reduced.